How long did you wait to pop the question?
January-15th-2003, 02:34 AM
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How long did you wait to pop the question?
I was just wondering how long those of you that are married dated your girlfriend before you asked her to marry you. Ive been dating my girl for 7 months and I know I want to marry her but want to wait at least a year before I ask. I just wanted to see how long some of you waited.
January-15th-2003, 03:20 AM
#2
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13 years. It'll be almost 14 by the time we get married. Not afraid of commitment, though. Just never the right time. Plus it's fun having everyone go "When are you ever going to get married?"
The downside is the number of friends we've made in all those years, and trying to pare them down to a reasonable number for the wedding.
The downside is the number of friends we've made in all those years, and trying to pare them down to a reasonable number for the wedding.
January-15th-2003, 10:29 AM
#4
Hu Flung Pu
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Waited for EXACTLY two years. Got married 7 and a half months after that. Been married for EXACTLY 10 months today.
I waited that long for three reasons... I wanted to pay off my car completely (which I did), save some money to equip the house and do the down payment on it (which I did), and wait for her to graduate from her degree in Education (which she got just a few days before the wedding).
It´s always good to have things sorted out before you get married. I knew she was THE ONE after about 6 months of dating. But it´s a good idea to get some things out of the way (especially financially) before getting married.
It is almost a universal law that what you spend getting married, going on honeymoon, and getting stuff for the new house, will exceed whatever estimate you make. And don´t think the house will be "complete" a few months after you move into it... it will never be complete... you will keep spending mucho dinero many months into the marriage on little things that you didn´t think of, regardless of how much planning you do.
So save up as much as you can before getting married... if there is money left over in the end, you can always pay extra on the home loan or the car loan.
But anyway... I´m happy with my decision. She is the most wonderful woman I have ever met in my life. I can honestly say that the wedding day was the happiest day of my life (so far), and watching her walk towards me at church that night just took my breath away, and made my heart skip a few beats.
I waited that long for three reasons... I wanted to pay off my car completely (which I did), save some money to equip the house and do the down payment on it (which I did), and wait for her to graduate from her degree in Education (which she got just a few days before the wedding).
It´s always good to have things sorted out before you get married. I knew she was THE ONE after about 6 months of dating. But it´s a good idea to get some things out of the way (especially financially) before getting married.
It is almost a universal law that what you spend getting married, going on honeymoon, and getting stuff for the new house, will exceed whatever estimate you make. And don´t think the house will be "complete" a few months after you move into it... it will never be complete... you will keep spending mucho dinero many months into the marriage on little things that you didn´t think of, regardless of how much planning you do.
So save up as much as you can before getting married... if there is money left over in the end, you can always pay extra on the home loan or the car loan.
But anyway... I´m happy with my decision. She is the most wonderful woman I have ever met in my life. I can honestly say that the wedding day was the happiest day of my life (so far), and watching her walk towards me at church that night just took my breath away, and made my heart skip a few beats.
Last edited by LOS-323; January-15th-2003 at 10:32 AM.
January-15th-2003, 06:48 PM
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It really isn't a matter of time before asking the question. If you are sure and you feel it deep inside then theres no amount of time that you need to ask her. I fell in love with my fiancee the moment we met, I knew from then on I wanted to be with her the rest of my life.
Although we were both nervous about it, we both knew what we wanted and when I asked it was a natural feeling and she felt the same way. So don't let time rule your decisions, it's only other people that say "wait a year" "wait 20 years", but its YOU & your Loved One who have the feelings that matter.
I asked after 2 weeks. And I look forward to spending our lives together. Go with your feelings, don't let anything hold you back.
Although we were both nervous about it, we both knew what we wanted and when I asked it was a natural feeling and she felt the same way. So don't let time rule your decisions, it's only other people that say "wait a year" "wait 20 years", but its YOU & your Loved One who have the feelings that matter.
I asked after 2 weeks. And I look forward to spending our lives together. Go with your feelings, don't let anything hold you back.
January-16th-2003, 04:56 PM
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Originally posted by turboge
It really isn't a matter of time before asking the question. If you are sure and you feel it deep inside then theres no amount of time that you need to ask her. I fell in love with my fiancee the moment we met, I knew from then on I wanted to be with her the rest of my life.
Although we were both nervous about it, we both knew what we wanted and when I asked it was a natural feeling and she felt the same way. So don't let time rule your decisions, it's only other people that say "wait a year" "wait 20 years", but its YOU & your Loved One who have the feelings that matter.
I asked after 2 weeks. And I look forward to spending our lives together. Go with your feelings, don't let anything hold you back.
It really isn't a matter of time before asking the question. If you are sure and you feel it deep inside then theres no amount of time that you need to ask her. I fell in love with my fiancee the moment we met, I knew from then on I wanted to be with her the rest of my life.
Although we were both nervous about it, we both knew what we wanted and when I asked it was a natural feeling and she felt the same way. So don't let time rule your decisions, it's only other people that say "wait a year" "wait 20 years", but its YOU & your Loved One who have the feelings that matter.
I asked after 2 weeks. And I look forward to spending our lives together. Go with your feelings, don't let anything hold you back.
Why go through all the formalities and expectations?
If you know its right , and you can feel it , why not just let your heart and emotions lead the way.
I am a firm believer in love at first sight , only recently because I have expirenced it.
I also believe that if the two people that are involved in the relationship
agree upon marriage, no matter how long they have been together .. why not?
To each his own. It is only other peoples comments that hold us down.
For a minute ,think about what you want, and put the other oppinions aside.
So what if youve only been with your girl for 7 months, I say go for it.
January-16th-2003, 05:02 PM
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Originally posted by turboge
It really isn't a matter of time before asking the question. If you are sure and you feel it deep inside then theres no amount of time that you need to ask her. I fell in love with my fiancee the moment we met, I knew from then on I wanted to be with her the rest of my life.
Although we were both nervous about it, we both knew what we wanted and when I asked it was a natural feeling and she felt the same way. So don't let time rule your decisions, it's only other people that say "wait a year" "wait 20 years", but its YOU & your Loved One who have the feelings that matter.
I asked after 2 weeks. And I look forward to spending our lives together. Go with your feelings, don't let anything hold you back.
It really isn't a matter of time before asking the question. If you are sure and you feel it deep inside then theres no amount of time that you need to ask her. I fell in love with my fiancee the moment we met, I knew from then on I wanted to be with her the rest of my life.
Although we were both nervous about it, we both knew what we wanted and when I asked it was a natural feeling and she felt the same way. So don't let time rule your decisions, it's only other people that say "wait a year" "wait 20 years", but its YOU & your Loved One who have the feelings that matter.
I asked after 2 weeks. And I look forward to spending our lives together. Go with your feelings, don't let anything hold you back.
you just want to drive the MSP!!!
totally kidding. congrats.
January-16th-2003, 06:37 PM
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I have yet to ask!! But am deff thinkin bout it!! I am going to wait till we are both out of school though, which would put us at the 3-4 yr range. We have been together for a little over a year now and I started to think about it recently and I am 100% sure that she is the one for me. Even though its still a few years away, I dred having to ask her Dad.....
January-17th-2003, 01:51 AM
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Thanks for all the replys!
Your story sounds kinda like mine. I had known her for a while because we work together but we didn't talk much because I was too shy. But one day a few of us from work all went to the zoo and we really hit it off that day. We have been dating ever since. I really feel like I fell in love with her that day at the zoo and I know shes the one I want to be with for the rest of my life. Thanks again for the comments.
Originally posted by turboge
It really isn't a matter of time before asking the question. If you are sure and you feel it deep inside then theres no amount of time that you need to ask her. I fell in love with my fiancee the moment we met, I knew from then on I wanted to be with her the rest of my life.
Although we were both nervous about it, we both knew what we wanted and when I asked it was a natural feeling and she felt the same way. So don't let time rule your decisions, it's only other people that say "wait a year" "wait 20 years", but its YOU & your Loved One who have the feelings that matter.
I asked after 2 weeks. And I look forward to spending our lives together. Go with your feelings, don't let anything hold you back.
It really isn't a matter of time before asking the question. If you are sure and you feel it deep inside then theres no amount of time that you need to ask her. I fell in love with my fiancee the moment we met, I knew from then on I wanted to be with her the rest of my life.
Although we were both nervous about it, we both knew what we wanted and when I asked it was a natural feeling and she felt the same way. So don't let time rule your decisions, it's only other people that say "wait a year" "wait 20 years", but its YOU & your Loved One who have the feelings that matter.
I asked after 2 weeks. And I look forward to spending our lives together. Go with your feelings, don't let anything hold you back.
January-17th-2003, 09:42 AM
#12
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love at first sight? bah! that'll never happen to me 
p.s. i removed the names from my previous post for their privacy sake..... (MORE EDIT
)BOTH OF THEM are bitching at me now 
p.s. i removed the names from my previous post for their privacy sake..... (MORE EDIT
)BOTH OF THEM are bitching at me now
Last edited by ZoomZoomH; January-17th-2003 at 11:31 AM.
January-17th-2003, 11:09 AM
#13
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Originally posted by ZoomZoomH
love at first sight? bah! that'll never happen to me
p.s. i removed the names from my previous post for their privacy sake..... the girl was bitching at me about it
love at first sight? bah! that'll never happen to me
p.s. i removed the names from my previous post for their privacy sake..... the girl was bitching at me about it
