what the hell is up with you bry? i've been away long enough that i had no idea what was going on with you.

unfortunately i know exactly how that feels and if you want the bad news - it took me a handful of years before i completely reconciled it.

if i can offer a touch of insight - you are more hurt by your imagination of what could have been, than anything else. who's to say that a week down the track it wouldn't have all turned to custard and she could have been so far from the right one.

you only have what is, what could have been is just in your mind.

as for her acting all jealous with no real right to - its just that - jealousy. even though she doesn't want to be with you now, she obviously had some feelings for you because they are making her insecure now - either that or its just a chick thing - you know - animosity to all other females? am i bitter? cynical? i guess.

 

all i can say is, who is laughing now?

i always imagined that my partner would BE my best friend but we all know that's not how it works when you're a young whipper-snapper!

 

'sup stef- i've been gone a bit as well, not as long as u tho

i actually have this thing about ppl. i can read them pretty well, and i know she IS the one, but dammit, i think the timing is off. i've cared about a girl or two, but never like this. and the funnny thing is, nothing happened (physically) btwn us. that's really how i know. we made a connection and altho she she somewhat tries to deny it, i can hear it in her tone that she knows we did. it was/is deep, more than ...

okay, i better stop cause she has a way of finding me on the net. that was the weird thing too, she did her homework on me b4 i even thought she noticed me.

i know i didn't misread any of the signs, but i just think the timing is not right. oh well...

 

damn bro, now you're scaring me. back in the old days - i was 21 - i went through exactly the same thing and if i'm honest i still feel like i missed out but what are you gonna do eh?

i recommend you get all bitter and cynical like me - you can never have too much baggage you know!
of course you have the option of quietly waiting in the wings.......for the right time. who knows, if she really is interested, she might eventually come to you but i wouldn't bet on it.

 

Bitter and cynical, eh? I'll agree to that.

OneHawaiian - there are going to be more "the ones" in your life. Just hopefully not very many. I can only think of one girl I fell absolutely head over heels in love with and then had turn all to crap. My brain (or some other part of my anatomy) was too damn stupid to realize she didn't think I was the one (obviously because I caught her kissing another guy). I think every man has to have experienced this from time to time. Sometimes things don't work out and you just say f*$@ it and walk away.

Sometimes you just have to decide whether something that isn't working is worth continuing to pursue. You are banging your head against a brick wall. Is it breaking down?

 

seriously, you guys (and gals) just don't know. i have had "the one" once b4, and the girl now totally blows her away. i get bored very easily, and there have only been 2 girls in my life who i know would have made a positive impact in my life, and as of right now, i'm 0 for 2.

but i can wait. i've been waiting all these yrs, so what's a little while longer, right?

but like i said, in the meantime...