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August-14th-2003, 05:47 PM
#31
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ahhh.....so refreshing to see that some of you guys are sooo cute. lol Seriously, I hate the term 'nice guys finish last'. Nice guys are good after the age of 25 for most women, but before that age we don't really appreciate them. 
I have to agree with minime. Most of us are definetly kinda shy around men naturally. I know it's hard to tell the difference between just 'like' and REALLY 'like'. We like to think guys read minds or something. I'm a person that believes there is that one person that's just right for that one other person. They're out there, but unfortunetly, you're going to have to date ALOT of each one you think is 'the right person' to get the one you want to stay with on a more permenant basis. And for the most part, some girls don't mature til later in their 20's. For those of you still dating teens, I hate to tell you, but most aren't looking to settle down in a serious relationship. It might not be anything that you've done, but they're just having too much fun and freedom to want to be tied down. If a girl gives you a glance, then give it a chance. If she turns you down but doesn't appear to be turned OFF, then you're asking at a bad time. Get to know her more, then ask AGAIN at a later time. Some girls need to get to know you SLOWLY rather than just springing your feelings on them all at once. Let her 'simmer in your love juices' a while. lol
I have to agree with minime. Most of us are definetly kinda shy around men naturally. I know it's hard to tell the difference between just 'like' and REALLY 'like'. We like to think guys read minds or something. I'm a person that believes there is that one person that's just right for that one other person. They're out there, but unfortunetly, you're going to have to date ALOT of each one you think is 'the right person' to get the one you want to stay with on a more permenant basis. And for the most part, some girls don't mature til later in their 20's. For those of you still dating teens, I hate to tell you, but most aren't looking to settle down in a serious relationship. It might not be anything that you've done, but they're just having too much fun and freedom to want to be tied down. If a girl gives you a glance, then give it a chance. If she turns you down but doesn't appear to be turned OFF, then you're asking at a bad time. Get to know her more, then ask AGAIN at a later time. Some girls need to get to know you SLOWLY rather than just springing your feelings on them all at once. Let her 'simmer in your love juices' a while. lol
August-14th-2003, 06:24 PM
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Okay lara, that was good, but for those of us that are in the minority (I'm 31) any advice? HA! HA! It's frustrating in that if you are tired of the bar scene and want to meet someone and there is no where to go other than church or volunteer some where. Sounds weird going to church to pick up women? WTF? I don't do that. I haven't even been to church in over a year or so. I have met people primarily through friends or through work (I work in a hospital). Maybe this city just sucks. Girls are supposed to out number guys 3 to 1, but finding some one who is not psycho is pretty tough. I see hotties day in and day out, and the ones who are a real turn on are ones who are nice and have a brain (not to categorize girls as air heads because I know it's the same with us guys too!) Maybe I should go clubbing. Scary thought 
What sucks? Working directly with some one who is single and you think is the perfect match for you! She seems your type and is going to weddings every weekend so she is feeling lonely, and you are thinking damn! But just can't go there.
MisterT
What sucks? Working directly with some one who is single and you think is the perfect match for you! She seems your type and is going to weddings every weekend so she is feeling lonely, and you are thinking damn! But just can't go there.
MisterT
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August-15th-2003, 12:31 PM
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Originally posted by icynelly
Wow thanks for that mazdamine. EVen though shes 17 does she still think the same as you 'older girls?"
Wow thanks for that mazdamine. EVen though shes 17 does she still think the same as you 'older girls?"
August-15th-2003, 12:38 PM
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I was not offended by mister T or minim.
I am just trying say that the post was open to both males and females. so there is no reason for a female to find that post offensive. The reason for this is that ALL FEMALES ARE WELCOME TO POST.
The way I see it, being yourself is the best route. wheather you are a nice guy or an idiot. Someone will like you. I for one don't care for shy women, why? because they tend to have something hide and also tend to be the biggest freaks. But that is just me.
Mister T just be yourself, if you want that date with her. Don't push things, just hold regular conversations with her and maybe one day offer to go to lunch with her -- not really take her to lunch, because you still need to figure out if she likes you.-- You don't want to set yourself up for a car crash.
During lunch you can break the ice, get comfy with her and offer to hang out casually again another time.
But just rember be yourself doing this and take your time...
There is really no rush ..
By the way this is something I do from time to time. It often gets a girl to spill the beans about wheather or not she has a man or not or if she is hurting or whatever...
later
excuse my spelling ( I am tired)
Bruce
I am just trying say that the post was open to both males and females. so there is no reason for a female to find that post offensive. The reason for this is that ALL FEMALES ARE WELCOME TO POST.
The way I see it, being yourself is the best route. wheather you are a nice guy or an idiot. Someone will like you. I for one don't care for shy women, why? because they tend to have something hide and also tend to be the biggest freaks. But that is just me.
Mister T just be yourself, if you want that date with her. Don't push things, just hold regular conversations with her and maybe one day offer to go to lunch with her -- not really take her to lunch, because you still need to figure out if she likes you.-- You don't want to set yourself up for a car crash.
During lunch you can break the ice, get comfy with her and offer to hang out casually again another time.
But just rember be yourself doing this and take your time...
There is really no rush ..
By the way this is something I do from time to time. It often gets a girl to spill the beans about wheather or not she has a man or not or if she is hurting or whatever...
later
excuse my spelling ( I am tired)
Bruce
August-15th-2003, 01:00 PM
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It's hard to date people at work, cause if it doesn't work out then you're stuck looking at them all the time. It's ok if you can remain friends but more than likely, you'll probably want to avoid them at all costs if not. I dated my boss' son and we broke up because he cheated on me. Every chance he got, he still hit on me even though he started dating this other girl and made it hard for me to work there. Eventually I quit of course and I've never dated a guy I've worked with ever since. Then of course, there's the rumors and everyone in your buisness. Too much drama if you ask me. Can't meet people in church since I've stopped going YEARS ago. Don't like the bar scene either. Try at malls or grocery stores yet? And pleaseeeee don't EVER try to pick up a girl in a strip bar. I hate when guys say that's where they meet girlfriends. Come on, everyone else has already looked at her beaver, why add your name to the list just cause she may give it up to you for free? lol
August-15th-2003, 02:41 PM
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Originally posted by mazdaminime
It's hard to date people at work, cause if it doesn't work out then you're stuck looking at them all the time. It's ok if you can remain friends but more than likely, you'll probably want to avoid them at all costs if not. I dated my boss' son and we broke up because he cheated on me. Every chance he got, he still hit on me even though he started dating this other girl and made it hard for me to work there. Eventually I quit of course and I've never dated a guy I've worked with ever since. Then of course, there's the rumors and everyone in your buisness. Too much drama if you ask me. Can't meet people in church since I've stopped going YEARS ago. Don't like the bar scene either. Try at malls or grocery stores yet? And pleaseeeee don't EVER try to pick up a girl in a strip bar. I hate when guys say that's where they meet girlfriends. Come on, everyone else has already looked at her beaver, why add your name to the list just cause she may give it up to you for free? lol
It's hard to date people at work, cause if it doesn't work out then you're stuck looking at them all the time. It's ok if you can remain friends but more than likely, you'll probably want to avoid them at all costs if not. I dated my boss' son and we broke up because he cheated on me. Every chance he got, he still hit on me even though he started dating this other girl and made it hard for me to work there. Eventually I quit of course and I've never dated a guy I've worked with ever since. Then of course, there's the rumors and everyone in your buisness. Too much drama if you ask me. Can't meet people in church since I've stopped going YEARS ago. Don't like the bar scene either. Try at malls or grocery stores yet? And pleaseeeee don't EVER try to pick up a girl in a strip bar. I hate when guys say that's where they meet girlfriends. Come on, everyone else has already looked at her beaver, why add your name to the list just cause she may give it up to you for free? lol
I once dated a girl I worked with. Shw was with HR , so considered my boss. and things were nice when things were good , but after that I did not want to see her godforsaken face.
It definetly makes for an uncomfortable environment, unless it is no strings sex . Then that is just fun ..
Bruce
August-15th-2003, 03:05 PM
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Grocery store, I have seen some hotties, but that is far and between. And what tha hell are you going to say without putting her on the spot? As far as the girl I work with, right now it is a brother/sister relationship. I really don't care if I would ever go out with her. I don't like church because a lot of them I feel are like cults. I went to one and this guy was spilling his guts on looking at a girls rear. "It was the devil making me want to look!" No bud, it's called human nature. Guy sees good looking woman, he scopes her out and vice versa. Got to draw the line some where. Also, this girl at one church was really in to me. I started distancing myself, because I wasn't interested. I missed a couple of weeks of church and come in, and she comes in and sits next to me and says, "So you decided to BLESS us with your presence!" I was so pissed off! That was the last I went to that church. I never called and screened calls from that point on. I think coming up to a girl and talking to them at a grocery store and getting a number is like backing them up in to a corner. I feel like that would make them feel uncomfortable. Don't want to do that! As far as work, a fling is not recommended either. If the other falls for the person, some one's reputation can be at stake. I still think volunteer work and such is the best way. I used to even hang out at bookstores and read hoping I would see someone, but nope no girls there. I just try to enjoy life and hope our paths cross some day some how. I am content in life, but things could be better. It does get a little lonely from time to time. 
MisterT
As far as work, a fling is not recommended either. If the other falls for the person, some one's reputation can be at stake. I still think volunteer work and such is the best way. I used to even hang out at bookstores and read hoping I would see someone, but nope no girls there. I just try to enjoy life and hope our paths cross some day some how. I am content in life, but things could be better. It does get a little lonely from time to time. MisterT
August-15th-2003, 10:19 PM
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Originally posted by laracroft
ahhh.....so refreshing to see that some of you guys are sooo cute.
ahhh.....so refreshing to see that some of you guys are sooo cute.
LOL Not trying to hit on you, just a compliment
MisterT
August-16th-2003, 12:04 AM
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for the person who is 25 and dating a 17 year old
PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, DON'T DATE
I saw the same EXCAT scenario make and break infront of me at work. both, fantastic individuals, but the chick is going to college and needed the space and time. she wanted to go out and have fun. the dude wanted to settle down. they just didn't get along after a while, just different mode of thinking.
they liked each other very much, some may call it love
but I call it like(for that group)
please, don't hurt yourself and don't a burden on her
the chick(had alot in her mind, thinking if this is the right thing to do or not, and her and I talked for days about what she should do)
find somebody your age, PLEASE, Thanks
just, don't want to see somebody hurt again
PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, DON'T DATE
I saw the same EXCAT scenario make and break infront of me at work. both, fantastic individuals, but the chick is going to college and needed the space and time. she wanted to go out and have fun. the dude wanted to settle down. they just didn't get along after a while, just different mode of thinking.
they liked each other very much, some may call it love
but I call it like(for that group)
please, don't hurt yourself and don't a burden on her
the chick(had alot in her mind, thinking if this is the right thing to do or not, and her and I talked for days about what she should do)
find somebody your age, PLEASE, Thanks
just, don't want to see somebody hurt again
August-16th-2003, 12:27 AM
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Originally posted by pro00
for the person who is 25 and dating a 17 year old
PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, DON'T DATE
I saw the same EXCAT scenario make and break infront of me at work. both, fantastic individuals, but the chick is going to college and needed the space and time. she wanted to go out and have fun. the dude wanted to settle down. they just didn't get along after a while, just different mode of thinking.
they liked each other very much, some may call it love
but I call it like(for that group)
please, don't hurt yourself and don't a burden on her
the chick(had alot in her mind, thinking if this is the right thing to do or not, and her and I talked for days about what she should do)
find somebody your age, PLEASE, Thanks
just, don't want to see somebody hurt again
for the person who is 25 and dating a 17 year old
PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, DON'T DATE
I saw the same EXCAT scenario make and break infront of me at work. both, fantastic individuals, but the chick is going to college and needed the space and time. she wanted to go out and have fun. the dude wanted to settle down. they just didn't get along after a while, just different mode of thinking.
they liked each other very much, some may call it love
but I call it like(for that group)
please, don't hurt yourself and don't a burden on her
the chick(had alot in her mind, thinking if this is the right thing to do or not, and her and I talked for days about what she should do)
find somebody your age, PLEASE, Thanks
just, don't want to see somebody hurt again
August-16th-2003, 03:02 AM
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just date a 16yr old.
then a 18yr old.
then a 21yr old.
then a 25yr old.
then a 33yr old.
then a 40yr old.
then a 55yr old (retirement benefits).
u can do this in about a year (6months if ur good).
cover ur bases and then pick out which age group is the best.
then when all else fails, find the one with lots of money and low self-esteem.
hehe, i don't even know what this thread is about...
then a 18yr old.
then a 21yr old.
then a 25yr old.
then a 33yr old.
then a 40yr old.
then a 55yr old (retirement benefits).
u can do this in about a year (6months if ur good).
cover ur bases and then pick out which age group is the best.
then when all else fails, find the one with lots of money and low self-esteem.
hehe, i don't even know what this thread is about...
August-16th-2003, 05:25 AM
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icy, no offense, but most of us are in an 'almost-awake' state when we post on here, so re-reading 400 posts to put out your 2 cents requires only a gist of what the **** is going on 
. you know, i sat back and i kept thinking about this whole girl and guy situation... i've been with my girlfriend for 1 year and 8 months shortly, and we've had ALOT of ups and downs... i sit and think, this is it, this is the girl that i want to be with. and in all seriousness.. if it is, great, if not... live and learn. who you are has a lot to do with the people and influences around you. i sit and think to myself... "Where am I going to be in 5 years?" and i honestly cannot answer this question... so much can happen, there's so much potential for the next 5 years, that i can't wait, but i'm also afraid of what might be 
. and what we are discussing is probably the biggest flaw we have, not being able to fully read each other. while there ARE a predetermined set of common gestures, gazes, expressions associated with human emotion and the visual effect it gives, and there is a scientist out there that STUDIES day in and day out human behaviors... it's something we will never fully understand... what is the other sex thinking?? it's the human condition, welcome i'm 19, i've got an alright work ethic, i've dated a little and i was shy for most of my teenage years, but slowly but surely i've been able to grow out of that. and it sometimes makes me wonder what the girls i work with think of the way i may talk to them. my girlfriend would see it as flirting (very possessive individual like myself), i see it as aimless bullshit chit-chat, but the thing that bugs me is that i look for smiles and gestures, and it's like decyphering hyrogliphics. i mean, i've been with my girlfriend for long enough to identify 5 different smiles, 3 stares, 2 grins, 3 types of tears, 4 laughs.. i mean, i'm serious.. it's sickening to a point where i can read her like a book (though i never let her know that ) ... but all this means nothing when it comes to another girl. every woman is one in a million, theres no way to fully understand the opposite sex. thats life for you
peace
. you know, i sat back and i kept thinking about this whole girl and guy situation... i've been with my girlfriend for 1 year and 8 months shortly, and we've had ALOT of ups and downs... i sit and think, this is it, this is the girl that i want to be with. and in all seriousness.. if it is, great, if not... live and learn. who you are has a lot to do with the people and influences around you. i sit and think to myself... "Where am I going to be in 5 years?" and i honestly cannot answer this question... so much can happen, there's so much potential for the next 5 years, that i can't wait, but i'm also afraid of what might be . and what we are discussing is probably the biggest flaw we have, not being able to fully read each other. while there ARE a predetermined set of common gestures, gazes, expressions associated with human emotion and the visual effect it gives, and there is a scientist out there that STUDIES day in and day out human behaviors... it's something we will never fully understand... what is the other sex thinking?? it's the human condition, welcome i'm 19, i've got an alright work ethic, i've dated a little and i was shy for most of my teenage years, but slowly but surely i've been able to grow out of that. and it sometimes makes me wonder what the girls i work with think of the way i may talk to them. my girlfriend would see it as flirting (very possessive individual like myself), i see it as aimless bullshit chit-chat, but the thing that bugs me is that i look for smiles and gestures, and it's like decyphering hyrogliphics. i mean, i've been with my girlfriend for long enough to identify 5 different smiles, 3 stares, 2 grins, 3 types of tears, 4 laughs.. i mean, i'm serious.. it's sickening to a point where i can read her like a book (though i never let her know that ) ... but all this means nothing when it comes to another girl. every woman is one in a million, theres no way to fully understand the opposite sex. thats life for youpeace
August-16th-2003, 08:02 AM
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Demoninvictis, the relationship philosopher! hee hee. That was good man. As far as age difference goes, I am 31 and any girl under the age of 25 just doesn't seem to have enough life experience. Not to offend any young ladies, but they are still learning a lot in life and have a lot to experience, both good and bad. If it's casual dating, that is one thing, but otherwise, if you want to settle down, it can be difficult do to the other's maturity, life experiences, and so forth. A guy like me is more subtle in his ways than some one in their early 20's. That doesn't mean I don't have fun, but just a little more cautious in all aspects of life. Now what the hell does that mean? You got me?! LOL
MisterT
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August-16th-2003, 07:15 PM
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When I was a teen I was crazy and a little on the wild side living in Miami of course. I never dated a guy my own age. They were usually at least 4 years older than me. I can honestly say that I didn't really know what I wanted until I turned about 23 and was divorced. Sometimes to understand what you want in life you gotta get hurt alot and make ALOT of mistakes along the way. Sometimes while it seems beneficial to be more cautious in your next relationship, there's going to be that ONE person that you just wanna jump in head first; throw caution to the wind for them and give it your best try even though you know what could happen. The only trouble is actually FINDING a person like that. My philosophy, : It's easy to get someone to take home to sleep with, but another thing to get that person to stay. People are a dime a dozen. Usually the best match is someone whom you already know and they've always been a great friend. You just need to take it a small step forward in the right direction. Baby steps...baby steps... lol