Are you a relationship expert?
February-4th-2003, 05:30 PM
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Are you a relationship expert? Please help me with a problem.
Well, considering the number of posts involving girls here, I would like to add one of my own.
I am haunted by the fact even today that there was this girl that I liked 3 years ago. I eventually got her ICQ contact, and talked to her. Being the immature and young person I was back then. I repeatdly messaged her one too many times, which left her the impression I was there to harass or stalk her, when I was only trying to know her better. She developed a misunderstanding of me in real life through ICQ.
I've changed now, very much. I'm much more mature and intelligent now. I just want her to make her know that. And to know I am not how I was as potrayed on ICQ 3 years ago. I don't expect her to like me or anything. I have a very good girlfriend already and I love her very much. I just want this to get out of my mind so that it doesn't haunt me anymore. Being the first girl I liked, this has really a lasting and should I say, devastating impact on me.
I just want to relinquish this problem and move on.
Any advice on how I talk to this girl? It's been 3 years already, and I'm confused on how I should approach this.
I am haunted by the fact even today that there was this girl that I liked 3 years ago. I eventually got her ICQ contact, and talked to her. Being the immature and young person I was back then. I repeatdly messaged her one too many times, which left her the impression I was there to harass or stalk her, when I was only trying to know her better. She developed a misunderstanding of me in real life through ICQ.
I've changed now, very much. I'm much more mature and intelligent now. I just want her to make her know that. And to know I am not how I was as potrayed on ICQ 3 years ago. I don't expect her to like me or anything. I have a very good girlfriend already and I love her very much. I just want this to get out of my mind so that it doesn't haunt me anymore. Being the first girl I liked, this has really a lasting and should I say, devastating impact on me.
I just want to relinquish this problem and move on.
Any advice on how I talk to this girl? It's been 3 years already, and I'm confused on how I should approach this.
Last edited by leungwingkei; February-4th-2003 at 05:36 PM.
February-4th-2003, 07:21 PM
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Originally posted by PseudoRealityX
You shouldn't.
I don't mean to be harsh or anything, but there's really no good way to go about talking to this girl after 3 years. I'm sure she's moved on with her life like you have with yours, and it's my opinion that neither of you need to talk to the other about it.
You shouldn't.
I don't mean to be harsh or anything, but there's really no good way to go about talking to this girl after 3 years. I'm sure she's moved on with her life like you have with yours, and it's my opinion that neither of you need to talk to the other about it.
February-4th-2003, 07:29 PM
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Yep. Take your newfound experience and maturity into your next relationship. It won't do you any good with her, but the next girl will appreciate it.
They say that good judgement comes from experience, but a lot of that comes from bad judgement.
They say that good judgement comes from experience, but a lot of that comes from bad judgement.
February-4th-2003, 09:47 PM
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Hi. I am not much of an expert, but my girlfriend is getting her Psychology Bachelors Degree this Spring, and here is what she has to say:
first of all, you said yourself you are more mature.. It is possible the girl developed a misunderstanding because maybe you didnt explain why you were ICQ her so often. MEaning...did u tell her shes interesting and u wanted to get to know her better and that ther was no pressure involved? As for now, we all learn from our mistakes of the past it is how we mature in life. BEsides if you are in a happy relationship now..focus on that and the past shouldnt get in the way. Jus remember you hav matured ...so dont dwell on the past focus on the hapier future!
-Maria
first of all, you said yourself you are more mature.. It is possible the girl developed a misunderstanding because maybe you didnt explain why you were ICQ her so often. MEaning...did u tell her shes interesting and u wanted to get to know her better and that ther was no pressure involved? As for now, we all learn from our mistakes of the past it is how we mature in life. BEsides if you are in a happy relationship now..focus on that and the past shouldnt get in the way. Jus remember you hav matured ...so dont dwell on the past focus on the hapier future!
-Maria
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