Over this last weekend my ex-GF I haven't seen in 4yrs came to Monterey with her boyfriend to visit their families. My ex and I got together to see eachother, but it turned into three days straight of great times. She ditched her boyfriend for me the whole weekend, stayed with me fri, sat, and sun. Anyway I have an ex here and I told her what happened so that option has been cut, now I'm all alone again.

The real problem is that after this weekend I remember why I fell in love with my ex from San Diego. See we still have feelings for eachother, but I don't think she'll ever leave her current boyfriend, even though she hates him, I don't understand girls. So after all this I miss the hell out of her, and she misses me. She drove home with her BF. When they stopped at the gas station she hid in the bathroom to call and tell me how much she misses me.

Anyone else gone through this ****? I hate it. She wants me to visit but I think I'm just gonna get myself, or her into an even worse situation. I think I should cut it off but it's really hard. BTW, SHE IS SOOOO HOTTTT!!!!

I know this is the wrong place to post but I just want to get thoughts out of my head.

 

Girls are nothing but trouble my friend....just a warning.

 

lol, man dont listen to out jamaican friend. Ask yourelf who broke up with who? Then try to remember why and what you two went through before your break up. More then likely after getting back together all that stuff from the past will float up like a big smelly pile of last weeks **** and stick up your whole life again. . .

 

love'em and loose'em

 

Ha ha....I love teh womenz!
They love teh accent!

 

you have no frigin accent, just like I almost have lost mine...

 

Righty-o.

 

We talked about why we broke-up before. I got home-sick, I was only 19 at the time and didn't like being stuck in the city with no friends but her, so I came home. We always got along though.

I've had plenty of experience with the ladies, and from my experience I think I should just leaver her alone, but it's hard because she was the only girl I really loved. See, this is why I have 3 cars and 3jobs, to keep my mind off stupid **** like this...

 

If she can't figure out what she wants, then you don't want her. If she wants you, then she would dump her boyfriend and go to you. Her staying with her current BF is loud and clear, don't you think?

Look at the actions, not the words.

 

yeah.. if anything she seems to want to start trouble... thing, she sneakely calls you to say "i miss you"

i think she knows your gonna want to go to her... then the trouble starts... i think she just wants someone to fight over her.. or she just wants you back and for you to take her away like some cheesy *** movie she saw or how some lyrics went.. i dont reallly know

 

That sucks, I've got something kinda similar going on...my ex gf and I still hang out and still like eachother, but she does her thing and who knows! Just make sure you ask yourself a lot of questions and ask her a lot too, find out as much as you can, and look closely at what goes on and see how you really feel when you look at it all. Get out there and think if you could ever be with anybody else or is it her you really want. And if she was the first girl youve ever really "loved" than make sure its her you want, and just not that feeling of when you were together, which you could get with other girls, but just think of her as being the one because she was the first! Just take some time to think of everything and if your still young like myself, just think of what might come next...!

 

hmm, shes pretty...

 

Dude, take it from one that has been there and done that.

If she would cheat on her boyfriend with you she'll cheat on YOU if you were her boyfriend. And just for the females here, yes that goes for guys too!
She is lacking major morals. And if she loved you there would be no hesitation on her part. I'm 34 and I still have a hard time learning the differance between love and infatuation. When I went through my last devorse my mom asked me this question.

You know you really love her when you would give your right arm for her (right arm because I'm right handed).

My answer was hell no, if she left I would need that arm! I left the last part of that answer out though!

If you really loved her you wouldn't have left. You would have been to cought up in her to get home sick.

Leave her and her issues behind and find some one that is right.
Just my thought.

 

Thanks for the help guys, we talked about it last night. Friends, and no more, that was the consensus.

 

good job man. i saw this thread too late...