okay, first off, i am not a player. but here's the 411: i totally like this one girl, and by the way things look, you'd think we were destined for each other. however, i have 4 other girls constantly (and i mean constantly) calling me and wanting to go out. and it seems everywhere i go, i get an abnormal amount of female attention.

now here's the problem: i don't want any of them! i am twisted over this one girl, but everytime it starts to look good, i get shafted and then i wanna go out with someone else instead (cause that's how us guys are, right?) but then she always calls me b4 i do anything stupid and then i get majorly twisted.

what the hell? i go to the mall, and women come up and talk to me. i go to work, and my co-workers cousin wants to hook up with me. i can't go anywhere without some girl trying to be with me...BUT IT'S NOT THE ONE I WANT!!!

can anyone shed a little light on this and maybe give me some advise? i know it looks a bit embelished, but i **** you not, this is all true. and that is the problem.

 

but i don't know why she shafts me then calls me a little later ('cept to keep that leash tight?). i'm all twisted.
yesterday, i met this woman at the mall. we really got into a nice conversation and the old me would have jumped that opportunity, but i couldn't stop thinking about the one i want...

i need to find out how she feels.

 

You must be "Bond, James Bond." It sounds like you are a good man, I do not what to say about your situation. I would work it out with the girl that you want, and tell the others to **** off, but only if everything is worked out. Otherwise, it just seems to me that there are not enough good looking guys like you, out there in Hawaii, for all those good looking girls. Just make a clone out of your self, or "Mini-You", and at least "1/8" of your problems would go away.

 

LOL

yeppp, i say why don't you ask her, the truth may either hurt or not, if she likes you great, if not, there are plenty of fish is a sea (no pun intended).

I have an opinion, maybe we should get the rest of the female population of this forum to help you out.

GL, for real

w00t!!! for m00t!!!

HS8

 

??? Girl you got us all messed up... first you say go for her, and then you say to screw the rest??

Can't you make up your mind??

 

Ignore her. If she knows you like her then she's going to try to play you like a piano. All those other girls want you because you aren't interested so you are a challenge to them.

 

your problem isn't that you have too many women, it's that you don't have enough women! it's all about math bro. you have 4 women and 7 days in the week. if you get with 3 more women, your total would be 7, and you could spend 1 day a week with each one of them. problem solved! j/k!

on a serious note, no matter how much you like that one girl, DON'T give in to her little games. next time you see her, start singing "quit playin' games with my heart" and then bust out with a backstreet boys choreographed dance. sorry, i know i said i was gonna be serious, but i just couldn't help it!

 

**UPDATE** we had dinner tonight at a thai restaraunt, and it went prefectly! i didn't stutter (i do that when i'm trying to hook up), the conversation was smooth and flawless, and i think she's into me cause i didn't make any "moves" on her.

on a related issue, two of the girls called earlier wanting to go to the movies and shopping, but i was like, "um, some guy owes me money so i gotta go track him down", which was true, but i didn't wanna spend time with them cause i needed to go out with the "special" girl.

yeah, i've noticed when i make it too easy for her, she's nice and all, but doesn't call me. then when i don't pay as much attention, she's sending me messages on my phone, calling me in the mornings etc. it's all good. i hope it gets better.

thanks everyone for your input. tito, i like your idea as i'm sure every guy would, but don't you think 8 women would be better so you could have 2 in one night?

okay, forget what i said. don't wanna jinx anything...

 

take it from a girl...

she is definitely playing hard to get OR she's just doing that because she knows you're interested and she enjoys the attention. don't you know women like attention?

go on a few dates, and if she is still acting that way, then she is just not worth your time, as difficult as it may be for you. if she was really "meant" for you or cared for you, she wouldn't put you through that. it's pretty simple. people who really want to be together act like they do; if she continues to play games then she's around just for the fun of it. eventually, the best thing to do is either realize she keeps playing games (or she'll stop, which is perfect!) or you'll have to just ask her how she feels. don't do it so soon though, it might scare her off if she really likes you. kudos on not making moves that dinner date. yes, it does work to keep the interest in the girl but also she'll feel like you respect her. well, depends on the type of girl, since i don't know her! feeling like a piece of meat is not fun.

as for the other girls, you say you dont' want them to bother you, but you don't tell them the right things to keep them away. so just tell them you're going on a date, why lie? if you really want them to go away (which you might not...) then it's easy - just tell them the truth. otherwise, enjoy the attention! just remember though, you can't have it all - either you want the one special girl in your life (whether it be the one you're thinking about now or some girl in the future) or a bunch of different ones. up to you, but you have to decide before you get in trouble!

 

baby, she's not letting me in just yet, and until she does, i'm still your b!tch.
raaaawwwwr....

 

hey now! i'm still here...

 

i know why all those woman are after you.......i have the same problem


they are using your for your car, but thats just the price you pay with a Mazda Protege

 

hehe, i wish that were true, but 2 of the girls don't even know what i drive. i wish it was my ride tho, then i'd have an excuse to be shallow. but as it stands, i'm doing okay as i'm making a little progress, altho i am going out with another girl 2nite (just as friends) until "the one" lets me know how she really feels.

then i dedicate everything to her...

 

we're talking more, but still unsure as to how she feels. she just ended a 4yr relationship about amonth or two ago, so this is kinda fresh. maybe she doesn't want to rush into this? but i'm not seeing the other girls anymore, just talking to them on the phone and whatnot.

i'll keep you ppl updated on my happiness/depression.

 

Dating a girl is like a tug-o-war (not that kind you sickos). You each have one end of the rope and you want to keep the it nice and tight with no slack.

Picture this, if you walk towards her (ie get super lovey dovey too soon) then there is no challenge or excitement there. She won, you lost her interest. However, if you bust her chops, play it cool, don't get ***** whipped, and call her bluff on her flighty ways (with the right tone of humor), then you are pulling back on the rope, keeping it (the tension) there. But if you keep pulling on the rope (by staying too aloof, or continuously making fun of her) then you will break the rope, so to speak. That's no good either. In that case, give a little slack until she is pulling again.

I would also recommend going out on other dates with other girls. First it shows her that you are not completely whipped by her (that equals boring), and it also gives you a chance to relax and have fun. If you don't feel anything for these girls don't worry about it, just have a fun date and don't screw it up with ..... da knockin of da boots. You're young, don't pidgeon? hole yourself pining over one girl. She will come to you, as long as you make it exciting and challenging for her.

**** it, what do I know? Just bribe her with chocolate, women always fall for that.